The instant you get upset, the experience of love disappears. You close down inside and lose your ability to see what needs to be done. Upsets seem to be caused by the circumstances, but they’re not. No circumstance ever has the ability to make you upset. All a circumstance can do is strike a nerve in you. That’s why the same thing can happen to two people and one will be upset and one won’t. If the circumstance caused the upset, then everyone would react in exactly the same way. Obviously, this doesn’t happen.
Each person has a totally different reaction to whatever words we say. When we say “you’re fired,” one person feels relieved and another feels devastated. When we tell them “I love you,” one person feels warm and happy while another feels sad or afraid. People react in different ways because each person has a different set of nerves and issues. These nerves and issues are suppressed hurt from the past and feelings of being inadequate and not good enough. We suppress this hurt and then spend the rest of our lives running from it. As we run from this hurt, we destroy the experience of love. We sabotage our relationships, our careers and our dreams.
Each person has a totally different reaction to whatever words we say. When we say “you’re fired,” one person feels relieved and another feels devastated. When we tell them “I love you,” one person feels warm and happy while another feels sad or afraid. People react in different ways because each person has a different set of nerves and issues. These nerves and issues are suppressed hurt from the past and feelings of being inadequate and not good enough. We suppress this hurt and then spend the rest of our lives running from it. As we run from this hurt, we destroy the experience of love. We sabotage our relationships, our careers and our dreams.